Anger is a normal, human emotion; however when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems at home, work, in your relationships and in the quality of your life. Having uncontrolled anger can make you feel as though you’re at the mercy of an unpredictable, powerful, internal force.
Anger can be caused by external and internal events. You could be angry with a specific person or situation that you find yourself or your anger may be caused by memories of traumatic or enraging events that can trigger angry feelings.
The instinctive, natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively. Anger is a natural response to threats; it initiates powerful, aggressive, feelings and behaviors, which allow us to defend ourselves when attacked. Therefore, anger, can be and is necessary for survival.
A contributing factor in those who are easily angered is LFT (Low Frustration Tolerance). One simple definition of LFT is a condition where people feel that they should not have to be subjected to frustration, inconvenience, or annoyance. They find great difficulty in taking things in stride, and they’re particularly infuriated if the situation seems somehow unjust. The understanding of what LFT is, can give a person, prone to excess anger a better understanding of the cause of his anger.
Whatever the cause of your anger, if it is negatively affecting your life, you have many ways to control it. You do not have to hand your control and power away any more, you can understand where it is stemming from and gain control over it.
You have heard the expression “Courtesy is Contagious”. You may have felt it when someone does a courteous act for you. You smile in appreciation and you feel so good that you can more easily be courteous to others.
However, is this, a description of how you have felt sometimes? You may see the “Courtesy is Contagious” sign with the “Happy Face” next to it and just the thought that someone is happy or asking you to be happy … makes you even angrier! If you have had that feeling, read on, because you may have a real need for anger management. The opposite of “Courtesy is Contagious”, is also true; “Anger is Contagious”, but what is worse, anger always increases in its intensity and contagion. When anger is directed at someone, its negative effect is absorbed and so it spreads to everyone around, like a bad virus that it becomes an epidemic.
How Hypnosis Can Help
Hypnosis is a very healthy and helpful way to deal with anger. It is also a fast way to achieve the desired results. Once you have determined what causes your anger, you can begin to work toward being more in control every time angry thoughts, feelings and actions enter your life. Also, the understanding of how hypnosis can help in managing your anger is an early step in controlling it. The reason why hypnosis is so effective in controlling your anger is because it works in the same part of your consciousness where your anger is found; in your sub-conscious.
The hypnosis technique that I find to be the most helpful in anger management is called “Parts Therapy”. You may find it quite helpful to view your anger, as it’s own entity controlling your actions. During a PT session, you view the part of you that is angry, where and when it was formed and by allowing that angry part to express itself, you experience a wonderful lessening of and increased control of your anger.